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Change Your Life If you paint in your mind a picture of bright and happy expectations, you put yourself into a condition conducive to...

Change Your Life

If you paint in your mind a picture of bright and happy expectations, you put yourself into a condition conducive to your goals.

 The way you think and feel about yourself, including your beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you, determines everything you do and everything that happens to you.When you change the quality of your thinking, you change the quality of your life, sometimes instantly. You have complete control over only one thing in the universe— your thinking! You can decide what you are going to think in any given situation.Your thoughts and the way you interpret any event trigger your feelings—positive or negative. Your thoughts and feelings lead to your actions and determine the results you get. It all starts with your thoughts.

Positive thoughts are life enhancing. They empower you and make you feel stronger and more confident. Positive thinking is not just a motivational idea. It has measurable, constructive effects on your personality, your health, your levels of energy, and your creativity. The more positive and optimistic you are, the happier you will be in every area of your life.
Negative thoughts bring about the opposite. They disempower you and make you feel weaker and less confident. Whenever you think or say something negative, you give your power away. You feel angry and defensive. You feel frustrated and unhappy. Over time, negative thinking can make you physically ill, and even poison your relationships. Positive thinking leads to mental health and peak performance. Negative thinking leads to mental illness and decreased effectiveness.Your goal, therefore, if you want to live a wonderful life, is to cultivate positive emotions and get rid of negative emotions. The elimination of negative emotions is the most important single step you can take toward health, happiness, and personal wellbeing. Each time you take complete control over your thoughts and feelings, and discipline yourself to keep them positive, the quality of both your inner and outer lives improves. In the absence of negative emotions, your mind automatically fills with the positive emotions that generate feelings of happiness and fulfillment.

The Law of Substitution says, “Your mind can hold only one thought at a time, positive or negative.You can substitute a positive thought for a negative thought whenever you choose.” You can apply this law by deliberately thinking about something positive whenever you want to cancel out a thought or feeling that makes you angry or unhappy. The Law of Habit says, “Any thought or action that you repeat over and over will eventually become a new habit.” When you repeatedly react and respond in a positive way, you take full control over your conscious mind. Soon it becomes automatic and easy to think and act in that manner. By using willpower and repetition, you develop new habits of thinking and acting. By applying this law, you can become a completely positive person and change your life. 

Your negative emotions have all been learned, beginning in childhood. And what has been learned can be unlearned, sometimes

quite quickly.You can learn any habit or skill that you consider to be either desirable or necessary. Especially, you can learn positive, constructive ways of thinking about people, money, health, and other factors to cancel out negative ideas that limit your potential and interfere with your success. Many negative ideas or attitudes are based on false premises. Sometimes a negative idea about a subject, or a negative attitude toward a person, can be completely reversed with a single piece of new information. You could suddenly learn that an idea you had about yourself or another person was not true. As a result, you could change your thinking in an instant. Be open to this possibility. Negative emotions exist only because we give them life and then keep them alive. We feed them by continually thinking and talking about things that make us angry or unhappy. Fortunately, you can change this situation by applying the Law of Emotion. This law states, “A stronger emotion will dominate and override a weaker emotion, and whichever emotion you concentrate on grows and becomes stronger.” What this means is that whatever emotion you dwell upon grows and eventually dominates your thinking in that area. If you withdraw your mental energy from a person or situation that makes you sad or angry by refusing to think about it, the emotion connected with that situation eventually dies away. Like a fire with no fuel, it goes out. You have experienced this many times already. For example, as we grow up, we have relationships with the opposite sex. Most of them do not work out over time.When they end, we are often emotionally distressed and hurt.We are often sad, angry, depressed, preoccupied, and unhappy. These feelings last for a certain period. Then we recover.We meet someone else. Gradually we forget about the unhappy ending of the earlier relationship. Months or years later, we look back or even meet the other person, and we cannot imagine how emotionally involved we were with him or her. Because we did not feed them, the feelings have died away completely. This is an example of the laws of substitution and emotion in action in your own life.

There are four basic causes of negative emotions. According to the Russian philosopher Peter Ouspensky, in his book In Search of the Miraculous, these are: (1) justification; (2) identification, (3) inward considering, and (4) blame. The greatest leap forward in changing your thinking and changing your life will take place when you systematically eliminate all four of these causes of negative emotions from your life. 

Justification is what you do when you rationalize or create a reason for your anger and unhappiness. You tell yourself, and whoever else will listen, how badly you were treated and how dreadfully the other person behaved. You continually rehash the situation in your mind.You repeat all the reasons you have for being upset. Each time you think of the person or situation, you become angry. You feel entitled to your anger, as if you have paid a high price for it, especially since, in your estimation, you were such a good and virtuous person. The way you short-circuit the natural tendency toward justification and rationalization is by refusing to engage in it. Instead, you stop justifying.You use your marvelous mind to think of reasons not to justify your negative emotions. Remember, your negative emotions do you no good. They are totally destructive. They do not affect the other person or change the situation. They simply undermine your happiness and self-confidence, making you weaker and less effective in other areas of your life. Instead of justifying your anger and unhappiness, you should use your intelligence and imagination to excuse the other person, or to let go of the unhappy situation. For example, if someone cuts you off in traffic, instead of becoming angry, you say, “Well, I’d better be more careful next time,” “I guess he is having a bad day,” or “He must be late for an important appointment.”

Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, the instant you start excusing the other person you withdraw the energy or fuel that the negative emotions of anger and resentment require to get going and stay burning. You reassert your mental control. You keep yourself calm and positive. In a little while, the situation passes and you forget all about it. By substituting a positive thought for a negative thought, you get rid of the negative emotion, whatever it is. If you have a major life problem, such as a divorce, a lost job, or a failed investment, the same rule holds true. Stop telling yourself (and anyone who will listen) why you are entitled to be angry or unhappy. Instead, make excuses for the other person each time you think about the situation until the negativity dies away. When the fire of negative emotion goes out, you can then turn your attention to something positive. One of the most important rules for success and happiness is, “Don’t be upset or worry about something that you can’t do anything about.” Don’t criticize anyone for something that the person cannot change. A famous law says, “If there is no solution, there is no problem.”

There are two time periods in life, the past and the future. The present is only a brief, fleeting moment. You can choose to focus your attention on what has happened, which cannot be changed, or on the future, on what is possible, over which you have some control. Many people spend most of their emotional energies being upset and angry about events that occurred in the past. Unfortunately, this energy is completely wasted. Nothing good can come of constantly complaining about the past. Even worse, the negative emotions kept alive by reliving past events rob you of the joy and excitement that you could experience by thinking about future possibilities.

A psychiatrist with more than 25 years’ experience working with unhappy people wrote that the two most common words he heard in his practice were the words “if only.” It seemed that most unhappy people are held back by some event that occurred in the past that they cannot let go of. They are still resentful, angry, or depressed over something that someone did or did not do or say.They are angry with one or both parents, a sibling, a previous relationship or marriage, a boss or business relationship, a failed investment or financial mistake. The fact is that your life will be a continuous series of problems, difficulties, setbacks, and temporary failures. These unexpected and unwanted reversals and disappointments are a normal, natural, and unavoidable fact of growing up.To change your thinking and change your life, you must make a decision to get over them and to get on with your life, no matter what happened. Until you do, you remain a slave to the past, which cannot be changed in any case. Make a decision today that, from now on, you are going to eliminate all the “if only’s” from your life.

The author and speaker Wayne Dyer says, “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.” He means that at any time you can reinterpret the unhappy events of your early life in a positive way.You can practice the Law of Substitution and look into those negative experiences for something good, and think about that instead. You can focus on how your unhappy experiences have made you a better, wiser person. You can actually be grateful to people who have hurt you in the past because they have made you so much stronger in the present. And in any case, it could not have happened otherwise. Your parents had no experience with raising children. In addition, they were a product of the way they were raised. Like all humans, they came to parenting with their problems and weaknesses, just as you have today. Nonetheless, they did the best they could .

What Is Charm? Listen to the description of charm by someone who did not expect it and may have been resistant to its effect before succ...

What Is Charm?
Listen to the description of charm by someone who did not expect it and may have been resistant to its effect before succumbing: … [H]e projected a totally ‘in the moment’ focus on each person he met…. [H]e exuded warmth; he seemed a man genuinely interested in liking you, and not concerned with whether or not you liked him. How much of that was genetic and how much developed I can only speculate. All I know is that I was, in that brief moment of meeting, totally charmed by a person I neither agreed with nor even expected to like. These remarks are by professional speaker Mark Sanborn, commenting on meeting President Bill Clinton.
When we refer to charm, we’re not talking about table manners, good looks, or being a snappy dresser; we’re talking about something much more profound. True charm is something that goes beyond mere appearance. It’s that ability some people have to create extraordinary rapport that makes others in their presence feel exceptional. Charm has an engaging quality to which we respond powerfully and emotionally, almost instinctively. Nature or Nurture? You might be saying to yourself, “But you have to be born with charm, and if you’re not, you’re out of luck!” We used to believe that too, but in all the many years that we have researched, experimented with, and taught the art and craft of person-to-person communication, we have found much evidence to the contrary. There’s no question that some people are naturally charming, which gives them an advantage. But charm is not some mystical ingredient that is found in our genes. Charm is the result of using specific skills that most of us know little or nothing about. This means charm can be learned. In the pages ahead, you will learn how to become a completely charismatic person, exerting a magnetic attraction and influence on the people you meet.
Your Tools for Charming Others From now on, think about charm as a personality quality and skill you can develop by doing the things that charming people do and being the kind of person that charming people are.
Charm in Action 
Ron Arden relates this personal story as a testament to the power of charm: It was back in the seventies that my awareness of the power of charm really took root. A friend of ours in Los Angeles phoned to invite my wife Nicky and me to a reception for Ivan Berold and his wife Maryanne. They had recently arrived here from South Africa. Ivan, a handsome devil and a good actor and friend, is someone I had known during my theater days in South Africa. We arrived at their home that Saturday afternoon and...
joined the crowd in the garden. People were milling around the bar and, of course, Ivan and Maryanne. We greeted each other warmly and then the four of us proceeded to “fill up” at the inviting buffet tables. Later that afternoon I saw Nicky and Ivan talking to each other, and I noticed that my dear, normally levelheaded wife seemed entranced by him. I thought, “What on earth is going on? She’s behaving like a teenybopper.” An irrational pang of jealousy shot through me and I hurried over to join them. The Power of Fascination Soon after, I said to Nicky, “What is so fascinating about Ivan that you looked mesmerized by him?” She thought for a moment and said, “When he speaks to you, it’s as though you’re in a cocoon with him. No one exists in the world for him but you. And when he listens, he listens as though every word you say is important and needs his undivided attention.” When I thought about it, I realized she was absolutely right. Ever since I’ve known him, he has displayed that same quality when he’s with anyone. He radiates charm continuously. That’s why Ivan is very much a lady’s man and very much a man’s man, too. A Lifelong Interest Leads to These Simple Rules Though this event happened more than twenty years ago, I remember it like it was yesterday. As my dear wife reminds me, my first deep interest in charm seemed to happen about then.
And my interest grew. I set about studying and identifying the behaviors that all people of charm use. I questioned many of these individuals to get an idea of how they feel about their impact on others. One of the fascinating things I discovered was that those who charm get great pleasure in giving others pleasure. I set about reducing what I had learned into identifiable and manageable lessons, each lesson having its own set of simple rules and techniques that are easy to understand and just as easy to learn and to do. Brian Tracy and I have successfully trained many others to use these skills, whether for professional or social reasons, and now you, too, can learn how to control the dynamics of your own impact on people. Once you discover how to wield the power of charm, you’ll have at your disposal one of the most valuable elements for success— how to make people feel like a million. Your Tools for Charming Others Think of the most charming person you know. Observe the person’s behavior. Try to identify what he does when being charming. Watch the effect it has on others and use what you observe and learn as motivation to become, in your own way, just like your model—charming, persuasive, and admirable.

What Charm Can Do
Charm is captivating. Just as the petals of a flower unfold and open to the warmth and light of the sun, so do we unfold and open to the enchantment of charm. Charm acts as the Great Attractor, drawing us toward its magnetic source.
Those who have charm usually get listened to and often get extra chances. They are given opportunities others may never get. They can be forgiven for things others would be crucified for. They will be told things that others may never hear. People make excuses for them, go out of their way for them, and always give them the benefit of the doubt. Let’s face it, you probably know someone who has reached you in a very compelling and profound fashion. If so, you’ve been on the receiving end of someone’s charm offensive.

MEGIR 2032 Men Quartz Watch  - GOLDEN  196101401 Stainless Steel Net Strap Dollar Coin Pattern Dial 3ATM Wristwatch ...

Stainless Steel Net Strap Dollar Coin Pattern Dial 3ATM Wristwatch

Brand: MEGIR
Band Length: 8.07 inch
Band Material Type: Stainless Steel
Band Width: 22mm
Case material: Stainless Steel
Case Shape: Round
Clasp type: Hook Buckle
Dial Diameter: 1.65 inch
Dial Display: Analog
Dial Window Material Type: Hardlex
Gender: Men
Movement: Quartz
Style: Business
Water Resistance Depth: 30m
Dimensions and Weight
Product weight: 0.0780 kg
Package weight: 0.1025 kg
Product Size(L x W x H): 25.00 x 4.50 x 1.00 cm / 9.84 x 1.77 x 0.39 inches
Package Size(L x W x H): 12.00 x 7.50 x 7.00 cm / 4.72 x 2.95 x 2.76 inches

1. Watches make you look Classier  A quick glance towards your wrist is a much classier way to keep tabs on time during a date or a mee...

1. Watches make you look Classier 
A quick glance towards your wrist is a much classier way to keep tabs on time during a date or a meeting. Not to mention how rude it would seem to your companions if you pulled out your phone during a conversation.

2. Watches Are Functional
Any item inspired by the military has a functional use. Wrist watches included. Wrist watches were first used in the 19th century by the military to synchronize maneuvers during war. Since then, specialized watches have been used in the depths of the ocean by divers and high up in the sky by aviators. One of the big advantages of a watch - especially over a smartphone - is how long it can operate in the field. 

3. Watches Signal Style  *

The range of acceptable jewelry for a man is limited. Many men are only going to be seen with three main accessories decorating their hands - a nice watch, a stylish pair of cuff links, and a simple wedding band if they're married. You can display your sense of style by having a good quality watch. Call it what you will, a quality luxury watch is a man's equivalent to the engagement ring.

4. Watches Embody Craftsmanship  
A wrist watch is more than a time-keeper. It is a symbol of tradition and history encased in a showpiece with extreme craftsmanship. Not many men realize that they are wearing pieces of art on their wrist. Some watch houses have four craftsmen working on one watch for several months - designing complex pieces of technology by hand. Craftsmanship is one of the reasons why some watches cost $50 and another ones cost $500 or even more $10,000.

5. Watches Make Great Heirlooms 
Not only is a timepiece the quintessential gift - it is the quintessential heirloom.

No matter what your philosophy is on the end of life, we can all agree that people can live on through the memories of those that knew them. Owning timepieces from a different era is a remembrance of people who lived before you. Having their watches makes you think of them, in a real way. They wore these same watches which show signs of use, care and love. A watch collection is also a legacy. It doesn't necessarily have to be worth a mini treasure - but leaving your watch(es) to someone you care about is in essence passing on values that were important to you, to someone else. One of the best watches you can pass on are Rolexes.

This guide is for those of you that are first-time beardsmen and who don’t know what to expect. I’ll help you overcome common pitfalls an...

This guide is for those of you that are first-time beardsmen and who don’t know what to expect. I’ll help you overcome common pitfalls and issues that arise with having a beard and after reading this e-book you should have all the tools you need to sport a beard that makes you proud. 

This guide is for those of you that are first-time beardsmen and who don’t know what to expect. I’ll help you overcome common pitfalls and issues that arise with having a beard and after reading this e-book you should have all the tools you need to sport a beard that makes you proud. 

Since this will be the most epic, comprehensive e-book on bearding on the internet, I’ve broken it up into three sections: 1. Growing and Grooming Your Beard 2. The Mind of a Beardsman 3. Picking a Beard: The Beard Style Guide There are any number of reasons to grow a beard:

● looking more manly
● bucking the clean-shaven trend 
● hiding a weak chin 
● impressing your girlfriend/family/women in general 
● protecting your face from harsh weather 
● cultural reasons 
● it’s really awesome

But ultimately the reasons you should grow a beard are totally up to you as an individual. What you shouldn’t be thinking is that you’re lazy and couldn’t be bothered to shave - a good-looking beard takes time and effort. Personally I’ve found incredible friends through beard clubs, gotten tons of compliments from random strangers and have had my career skyrocket thanks to growing and maintaining a good beard. Your results will vary but what I can promise you is that when you grow a beard, it won’t be the same old status quo.

Growing and Grooming Your Beard 
Before you get started, have a look at our “A Man’s Guide to Beards” Infographic. It’ll be a while before you have to worry too much about actually shaping your beard, but it does help to know where you’re going with your beard.

Phase 1: Waiting For Your Beard To Grow 
The best thing to do when growing a beard is to put away the razor and put your patience to the test. A beard is not actually measured in length, but in months, so one of the most impressive traits you’ll gain as a beardsman is patience. 

As a beardsman your regular milestones will be: 
● a 1 month beard 
● 3 month beard  
● a yeard (year long beard)
Once you reach these lofty goals, you may be tempted to try for the holy grail of beards – the Terminal Beard, which is the maximum length you can genetically grow. With each length you’ll be presented with slightly different challenges. 

1. No Longer Beardless: The Itchy Phase 
As a beardless to about 2 weeks beardsman, you may notice that your beard gets pretty itchy, may appear patchy and is generally shaggy. The reason your beard is itchy is that when you shave you’re essentially creating little spears on the tips of each hair. 
Eventually they get long enough to bend around and poke at your skin. Your neck is very susceptible to this because of the angle where the neck meets the head and this explains the itchiness.For this stage you have several option: 
1. Man up and wait. It’s only temporary and will pass shortly.
2. Apply ample amounts of moisturizer like a beard oil or other applicable product. Avoid moisturizers containing alcohol as they’ll dry out your skin and worsen the itchiness. 
3. In the early stubble phase (day 1 or 2) use Soft Goat scruff softener. This product is designed to help make stubble softer and more kissable.
During this time you shouldn’t be using a shampoo on your beard as the length is still fairly short. I’d recommend using a natural bar of soap that doesn’t have irritant chemicals in them (like sodium laureth sulfate). There are a lot of soap options out there, and one I’ve personally used and enjoyed is Rocky Top Soap. Once you get through the itchy phase you’ll get to the point where your beard will look untidy. To neaten up your look I recommend trimming the neckline, upper cheeks, and mustache lip. However, If you’re going for the yeard, or natural beard, you should leave your beard untouched. 2. Your First Trim This is the point when we lose the most beardsmen. Men will typically get a little ambitious with their razors, cut too much off and then simply shave their entire beard off in frustration. Because of the risk of mistakes I recommend waiting at least a month to trim if possible. Most new beardsmen also tend to trim the neckline too high. The ideal location for the line is where the neck meets the head. So wherever your beard area is parallel with the ground you don’t trim and whatever is parallel with the world in front of you, you trim. You should be trimming very little of your beard for this part. An easy way to accomplish this is to simply shave what you can see in the mirror (on your neck). If you’re looking up to trim, you’re cutting too high.

Once your beard comes out a little bit you also have to start paying attention to keeping it clean - Your beard is not a food storage area. For now simply rinsing it on a daily basis should be enough to keep it clean. When trimming your mustache I recommend you use a pair of scissors instead of clippers. This will give you a little more control and it only cuts a few hairs at a time so a small mistake is not a big deal. With the cheek line, try to go with the natural curvature of your face and only trim off the one or two stragglers that are outside that line. If the beard on your cheek is very dense cheek you should trim no lower than the bottom of your nose. 
3. Picking Your First Style 
For the “euro-style, corporate look” I’d go with a 1 day to 2 week look. Wait till you have a nice stubble and then trim your beard, using the clippers on the lowest setting, as needed. Do not trim up the neckline or cheek line, as the natural stubble look is what you should be aiming for. If you’re looking for a “corporate beard” I would aim for about 1 to 2 months of length. In the meantime make sure to keep everything trimmed and tidy as mentioned above.

4. Care and Maintenance
To keep the length I’d recommend you use scissors instead of clippers as this will help prevent wrong guard mistakes and give you more control. Use a comb to pull out hairs to the desired length and trim away. Remember that less is more and you can always trim more another day. For maintenance at this stage I’d recommend rinsing the beard thoroughly every day in the shower and to apply beard oil daily. You can also wash your beard with a beard wash anywhere between 1 and 3 times a week.

You’re on a first date. You’re dressed to impress. The trousers are clean pressed, shirt is starched, pocket square and watch look great!...

You’re on a first date. You’re dressed to impress. The trousers are clean pressed, shirt is starched, pocket square and watch look great! When you arrive, she’s smiling at you and then looks down and sees it. Your cracked, 10-year-old, square toed leather shoes. FAIL The first impression is done. Dress shoes, gentleman. They can make or break an outfit. Many studies have shown that shoes are one of the first things women notice on an outfit. So how can you be sure to make a killer first impression? This eBook gives you everything you need to know about men’s dress shoes. From which ones to buy first, to how to care for them correctly. 

This guide is an overview of men’s dress shoe formality meant to help you “generally” understand shoe types, the levels of dress, and what style shoe can be worn with what style clothing. Note – this ebook does make generalizations that some shoe aficionados may have issue with. I admit it’s not perfect – if you have suggestions, email me. In later chapters we’ll tackle the issue of color matching and address specific styles like suede and cordovan. Like most things in life, if you break it up into sections and apply a few guidelines it turns out to be pretty simple.

Balmoral (Bal) The dressiest oxford men’s footwear selection. Sleek, refined, most often sold in black or brown but appropriate in any dark conservative color. Style variations include plain, toe, cap toe, brogue, and whole cut. Appropriate for a suit, if casually styled works with sport jackets and odd trousers. Do not combine with jeans or chinos. Every man who owns a suit should own a pair of classic oxfords that are minimally styled. If you wear suits daily, you should rotate three pairs or more.
Bluchers Less dressy than Bal oxfords, and identified by lacing system sewn outside of shoe. Well-dressed men know these can be worn with a suit, but are better with an odd jacket and trousers. They can be worn with jeans assuming they are casually styled. Style variations include cap toe, wing tip, brogue, wide variation in materials like suede and mixed leathers.

Common variations are:  Saddle shoes  Derby’s  Spectators  Laced moccasins A classic shoe that should serve as your 2nd or 3rd pair depending on needs -the more extreme the styling, the less versatile the shoe. Men’s Boots Dress boots are meant to be worn when the weather dictates protecting the ankles from water, mud, and snow. In levels of formality they should not be worn with a suit, although they can if the weather calls for it

If wearing under fair weather conditions, boots should be worn under the rules applicable to a pair of informal bluchers. Style variations include cap toe, wing tip, brogue, wide variation in materials especially water resistant leather cuts. Appropriate for a sport jacket and odd trousers or jeans. Only wear with suit in rainy/snowy weather.

A man should consider boots if he is exposed to conditions that warrant their wear - otherwise, reserve them for your 4th to 5th pair. 
Men’s Loafers or Slip-ons The least dressy choice, they are a product of comfort and convenience. Only with a suit when traveling, they are at home with a casual odd jacket and trousers minus necktie. Can be worn with jeans or chinos as well. Style variations are wide -usually the more delicate and closer resemblance to oxfords the dressier. Also, the greater the exposure of sock the less formal. Common variations are 
 monk straps
 tassel loafers 
 penny loafers 
 unlaced moccasins.  
Loafers are a traveler’s best friend -easy to slip on and off when going through airport security or when relaxing on the plane. I recommend they be the 2nd pair a traveling man owns or the 3rd pair for a man who like to look sharp around town in jeans and button down shirt.